DARVO: Understanding a gaslighting strategy of reversing blame.

October 3, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

by Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   Deny Attack Reverse Victim Offender Most of us don’t enter relationships thinking about gaslighting or about emotional abuse strategies. Instead, we often enter relationships with hope for what a new relationship can bring. Partners of sex addicts are no exception: They frequently find a partner who is …read more

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Sex Addiction vs. Love Addiction

September 21, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

by Julia Alperovich, LMFT, CSAT-C   Many people come to therapy for addictive behavior, but have a difficult time understanding exactly what they are addicted to. Although sex and love addiction have some similar features and can often happen simultaneously, they are different. They can be confused very easily just as love and sex are often …read more

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Core Fears for Partners

September 15, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

By Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C   A partner’s choice to stay in a relationship with a sex addict is difficult and usually very scary. Choosing to stay in the relationship is a risk for partners. If you are an addict, doing everything you can towards recovery and struggling to understand why your partner is still …read more

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Examining your Childhood…

September 7, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

Blaming Parents vs. Acknowledging the Past – What’s the Difference? by Eric Anderson, LMFT, CSAT   This is a question I hear a lot from people beginning counseling.  As soon as we starting looking at life experiences from childhood and growing up, often times clients may feel like they shouldn’t talk about negative events they …read more

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September 1, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

by Julia Alperovich, LMFT, CSAT-C   Mindfulness is a term that has gained popularity in recent years. We hear it frequently in the media around wellness, in advertisements for new-age businesses, in self-help literature, and in places like yoga studios and spas. It is now deemed to be a staple of healthy living, much like superfoods, …read more

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Co-parenting in the Midst of Sex Addiction Discovery

August 23, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

A Guide for Partners by Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C If you recently discovered your partner’s sex addiction, you are probably experiencing a myriad of emotions that you have to negotiate while, somehow, keeping up with your daily responsibilities.  To add to that difficulty, if you and your partner have children together, you also have to …read more

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Construyendo Empatía Hacia tu Pareja

August 17, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

Escrito en inglés por Julia Alperovich, LMFT, CSAT-C.  Adaptado al español por Juan Carlos Quinteros, LMFT, CSAT.   Así que… tú estás en recuperación. Has acordado hacer “lo que sea necesario” para salvar tu relación. Tú has comenzado a ver a un terapeuta regularmente, has revelado o admitido los comportamientos que tu pareja tenía miedo de …read more

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Beginning to Define Healthy Sexuality

August 11, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

by Cira Winarto, MA, AMFT   Clients will often come into the office carrying concerns about abstinence. Sex, porn, and love addictions are process addictions. Unlike chemical addictions, we cannot live our lives completely devoid of intimacy and sexuality. I have often encountered people who admit that they have a problem but are reluctant to …read more

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La Detección de la Adicción al Sexo

August 4, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

Publicado en Ingles por Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, CCPS, CSAT-S. Adaptado al español por Juan Carlos Quinteros, MA, LMFT, CSAT-C.   ¿Qué hacer si alguien presenta posibles síntomas de una adicción de proceso como lo es la adicción al sexo?  Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. ha desarrollado una herramienta de investigación simple y útil para la deteccion de …read more

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Intensity vs. Intimacy

July 24, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

The Unfulfilling Promise of Sex Addiction and How We Recover by Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, CCPS, CSAT-S   Addictions, chemical or behavioral, alter our mood and our state of consciousness. Our “drug of choice” promises us one (or more) of a number of things: Escape, excitement, numbness, soothing, relaxation, elevation, altered consciousness, happiness, peace, avoidance, …read more

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