Using Your Values to Shape your Boundaries

January 4, 2019 | Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C

A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts   Setting healthy boundaries is an important part of every relationship, and arguably, even more important for partners of sex addicts.  Sex addicts are known to violate their partners’ boundaries, intentionally or not, by going against what their partner values. After boundaries are repeatedly violated, partners often struggle …read more


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Gentle New Year’s Resolutions

January 1, 2019 | Banyan Therapy Group

Finding hope when it feels hopeless by a Partner   First, full disclosure, I’m a Partner of a Sex Addict in recovery. I can’t promise you that I have great advice. I can only share the road I’ve walked. I always fear my spouse’s relapse so the New Year is met with a lot of …read more


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A New Year, A New Resolution

December 30, 2018 | Banyan Therapy Group

Rethinking making resolutions when you are in sex addiction recovery   New Year’s resolutions can feel so very cliche. We all make them, but then forget them by February 1st. What’s the point? Why do we continue to carry on this silly tradition? Well, goals CAN be powerful if set in a manner that supports …read more


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Holiday Cheer Vs. Reality for Female Partners

November 24, 2018 | Monifa Ellis-Addie, MA, AMFT

Holiday cheer is what most people look forward to every year.  The bright lights, smiling faces, baking holiday treats, creating new memories with family and friends are just a few of the events that bring people joy every year. In society, traditionally, women take on many tasks during this time. In an article featured in Ozymagazine, titled …read more


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Stronger Than Hate

November 2, 2018 | Julia Alperovich, LMFT, CCPS-C, CSAT

As a Jew living in America, it saddens and terrifies me to acknowledge that anti-semitism is still alive and well here. My family and I fled from anti-semitism when we left the Soviet Union as refugees in the late 1980’s, in the hope of reaching safety in the United States of America, the land of …read more


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Narcissistic Victim Syndrome

October 30, 2018 | Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C

If someone is in or has been in a relationship with someone who is a narcissist, they may be experiencing something called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome as a result of domestic violence in their relationship.  Narcissists often look charming on the outside but commonly cause great pain and trauma for their partner. Narcissists may be emotionally …read more


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The Domestic Violence Cycle

October 26, 2018 | Eric Anderson, LMFT, CSAT

As with many repeating patterns, domestic violence has a cyclical nature that follows 3 stages. Knowing these stages is helpful to identify these abusive patterns in a relationship. There are 3 stages that we will look at: tension building, explosion, and the honeymoon.   The Tension Building Stage In this phase of the domestic violence …read more


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An Interview with Domestic Violence Expert Brianne Baker, LMFT

October 24, 2018 | Julia Alperovich, LMFT, CCPS-C, CSAT

In light of October being National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I interviewed a therapist who specializes in working with victims of domestic violence as well as court mandated perpetrators of domestic violence. Her name is Brianne Baker and she is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Santa Clara County, California. She has been …read more


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Domestic Violence

October 18, 2018 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

Myths vs. Reality When I think of domestic violence (DV), I often think of physical violence between one member of a couple to the other.  In fact, domestic violence (often referred to as Intimate Partner Violence) could involve physical violence, sexual violence, stalking or psychological aggression.  Similarly, DomesticViolence.org onsiders DV to include any behaviors that one …read more


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DARVO: Understanding a gaslighting strategy of reversing blame

October 2, 2018 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

Deny Attack Reverse Victim Offender   Most of us don’t enter relationships thinking about gaslighting or about emotional abuse strategies. Instead, we often enter relationships with hope for what a new relationship can bring. Partners of sex addicts are no exception: They frequently find a partner who is charming, loving, and maybe even doting… at …read more


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