The Cheater vs. The Sex Addict

Many times, I’ve heard sexual addiction be referred to as “people who are just cheating.” There is a vast difference between “cheating” and sexual addiction, but this can be difficult to see from the outside.  Here are 7 key factors that could help you identify the difference in yourself or others:   1) Shame Cheaters …read more

Partner Resources | Sex Addiction Resources

How to Keep Your Kids Out of the Middle

August 30, 2021 | Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C

Sex addiction can have devastating effects on families, but the lasting impact on the children can be lessened if you keep the kids out of the middle.  Important communication between you and your partner should not include the kids.  This blog will outline ways to keep kids out of the middle of your partnership affected by …read more

Partner Resources | Sex Addiction Resources

Shame and Narcissism in Sex Addiction

Narcissism is a common buzzword that seems to have been coming up a lot in the media and in therapy circles recently. When people think of narcissism it’s often associated with ego, entitlement, or an excessive love of self. While these things can be parts of narcissism, it can be more simply defined as obsession …read more

Sex Addiction Resources

Partner Betrayal Trauma – Where’s the Support?

You just found out you’re the partner of a sex addict.  You’re in shock, you’re hurt, you no longer trust your addicted partner. You may not even trust yourself.  You need someone to talk to.  Your family and friends may not understand. You fear they will pass judgement on you if you decide to stay …read more

Partner Resources | Trauma Resources

Step 10 & 11: Building a Daily Recovery Program

If you’re in a recovery program, you’ve probably heard people talk a lot about “working the steps.” You may have even started working the steps. And if you’re like too many, you may have stalled in working the steps, perhaps in step 4 or 9. Whether you’ve stalled in your step-work or if you want …read more

Partner Resources | Sex Addiction Resources

The Cycle of Abuse in Narcissist Victim Syndrome

In a previous blog Narcissist Victim Syndrome (October 2018), Katie Sanford discussed narcissistic tactics and the symptoms of this syndrome. Here, I would like to outline the cycle/phases of narcissistic abuse that lead to the syndrome. It is a very secret and deliberate game that you don’t even know you are playing. By the time …read more

Partner Resources | Sex Addiction Resources | Trauma Resources

Could I have PTSD?

PTSD Caused by Relational Trauma An “Invisible” Disorder that Can go Undiagnosed When I used to hear the term “Posttraumatic Stress Disorder,” I generally only thought of combat veterans and the trauma they experienced that could lead to PTSD. Combat can certainly induce PTSD. However, other types of trauma can also lead to PTSD. In …read more

Partner Resources | Sex Addiction Resources | Trauma Resources

COVID-19 Resource Guide

Download COVID-19 Resource Guide   Our world has been thrown into turmoil as the COVID-19 pandemic continues to spread. What some of us may have thought would be a brief period of quarantine and social isolation has turned into a chronic anxiety-ridden time, where many have struggled with both their medical and mental health.   …read more

Partner Resources | Sex Addiction Resources | Trauma Resources

Revisiting Boundaries During COVID-19

COVID-19 has forced us all to adjust to life in new ways. That means that many are “sheltering in place” rather than going to the office or engaging in typical routines. It also means that so many people are relying heavily on technology to stay employed, connected, and informed. Yet what do you do when …read more

Partner Resources | Sex Addiction Resources

5 Tips for Maintaining Recovery During COVID-19

We keep hearing about this “unprecedented” time in our world. In this season where we are all distancing ourselves from others to prevent the spread of Coronavirus, I wanted to write a few notes about how to maintain recovery during such a stress. If you are in recovery from sex addiction, use these 5 tips …read more

Sex Addiction Resources