Shame and Narcissism in Sex Addiction

April 7, 2021 | Eric Anderson, LMFT, CSAT

Narcissism is a common buzzword that seems to have been coming up a lot in the media and in therapy circles recently. When people think of narcissism it’s often associated with ego, entitlement, or an excessive love of self. While these things can be parts of narcissism, it can be more simply defined as obsession …read more


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Step 10 & 11: Building a Daily Recovery Program

January 5, 2021 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

If you’re in a recovery program, you’ve probably heard people talk a lot about “working the steps.” You may have even started working the steps. And if you’re like too many, you may have stalled in working the steps, perhaps in step 4 or 9. Whether you’ve stalled in your step-work or if you want …read more


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The Cycle of Abuse in Narcissist Victim Syndrome

December 9, 2020 | Monifa Ellis-Addie, MA, AMFT, CCPS-C

In a previous blog Narcissist Victim Syndrome (October 2018), Katie Sanford discussed narcissistic tactics and the symptoms of this syndrome. Here, I would like to outline the cycle/phases of narcissistic abuse that lead to the syndrome. It is a very secret and deliberate game that you don’t even know you are playing. By the time …read more


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Could I have PTSD?

September 30, 2020 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

PTSD Caused by Relational Trauma An “Invisible” Disorder that Can go Undiagnosed When I used to hear the term “Posttraumatic Stress Disorder,” I generally only thought of combat veterans and the trauma they experienced that could lead to PTSD. Combat can certainly induce PTSD. However, other types of trauma can also lead to PTSD. In …read more


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COVID-19 Resource Guide

July 18, 2020 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

Download COVID-19 Resource Guide   Our world has been thrown into turmoil as the COVID-19 pandemic continues to spread. What some of us may have thought would be a brief period of quarantine and social isolation has turned into a chronic anxiety-ridden time, where many have struggled with both their medical and mental health.   …read more


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Revisiting Boundaries During COVID-19

May 1, 2020 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

COVID-19 has forced us all to adjust to life in new ways. That means that many are “sheltering in place” rather than going to the office or engaging in typical routines. It also means that so many people are relying heavily on technology to stay employed, connected, and informed. Yet what do you do when …read more


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5 Tips for Maintaining Recovery During COVID-19

April 9, 2020 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

We keep hearing about this “unprecedented” time in our world. In this season where we are all distancing ourselves from others to prevent the spread of Coronavirus, I wanted to write a few notes about how to maintain recovery during such a stress. If you are in recovery from sex addiction, use these 5 tips …read more


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The Two Main Tasks for Recovery: Sobriety and Relational Healing

August 2, 2019 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

However you got here, you’ve started a journey of recovery from sexual addiction.  These early days of recovery may be confusing, overwhelming, scary, painful, or discouraging. That’s why I wanted to spend a few moments sharing how you can build a solid recovery foundation that will help you and your relationship heal.   Successful long-term …read more


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So He Needs You to be His Mom and then Later Resents You for it…

February 7, 2019 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

An impossible role for partners of sex addicts   If you’re a partner of a sex addict, do you feel that you take on more responsibilities in your relationship than you want to, which causes you to feel more like a mom than a partner?   If you are a recovering addict, do you find …read more


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Respecting and Responding to Your Partner’s Boundaries after Discovery (for Addicts)

January 24, 2019 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

Here are 6 ways you can better respond to your partner’s boundaries:   1) Make sure you understand your partner’s boundaries! This may seem obvious, but it’s vital to understand what your partner’s boundaries are.  You may feel backed into a corner, with no option but just to agree to all of your partner’s boundaries.  …read more


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