So He Needs You to be His Mom and then Later Resents You for it…

February 7, 2019 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

An impossible role for partners of sex addicts   If you’re a partner of a sex addict, do you feel that you take on more responsibilities in your relationship than you want to, which causes you to feel more like a mom than a partner?   If you are a recovering addict, do you find …read more


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Respecting and Responding to Your Partner’s Boundaries after Discovery (for Addicts)

January 24, 2019 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

Here are 6 ways you can better respond to your partner’s boundaries:   1) Make sure you understand your partner’s boundaries! This may seem obvious, but it’s vital to understand what your partner’s boundaries are.  You may feel backed into a corner, with no option but just to agree to all of your partner’s boundaries.  …read more


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Boundaries after Sex Addiction Discovery

January 22, 2019 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

Most of us, particularly if we’ve been in any kind of counseling, are used to hearing the word “boundaries”.  Boundaries may seem obvious, but they can so easily be misunderstood.  Let’s take a few minutes to look at what boundaries really are.   What are Boundaries: 1) Boundaries are for SAFETY, NOT PUNISHMENT It’s critical to …read more


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Setting Boundaries to Help You Heal

January 21, 2019 | Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C

A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts   If you are a partner of a sex addict you have most likely experienced emotional pain, hurt, and betrayal that is difficult to navigate. Many partners struggle because they love someone who is making destructive choices that greatly affect both the addict and partner. To make it …read more


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Using Your Values to Shape your Boundaries

January 4, 2019 | Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C

A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts   Setting healthy boundaries is an important part of every relationship, and arguably, even more important for partners of sex addicts.  Sex addicts are known to violate their partners’ boundaries, intentionally or not, by going against what their partner values. After boundaries are repeatedly violated, partners often struggle …read more


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Gentle New Year’s Resolutions

January 1, 2019 | Banyan Therapy Group

Finding hope when it feels hopeless by a Partner   First, full disclosure, I’m a Partner of a Sex Addict in recovery. I can’t promise you that I have great advice. I can only share the road I’ve walked. I always fear my spouse’s relapse so the New Year is met with a lot of …read more


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Holiday Cheer Vs. Reality for Female Partners

November 24, 2018 | Monifa Ellis-Addie, MA, AMFT

Holiday cheer is what most people look forward to every year.  The bright lights, smiling faces, baking holiday treats, creating new memories with family and friends are just a few of the events that bring people joy every year. In society, traditionally, women take on many tasks during this time. In an article featured in Ozymagazine, titled …read more


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Narcissistic Victim Syndrome

October 30, 2018 | Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C

If someone is in or has been in a relationship with someone who is a narcissist, they may be experiencing something called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome as a result of domestic violence in their relationship.  Narcissists often look charming on the outside but commonly cause great pain and trauma for their partner. Narcissists may be emotionally …read more


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The Domestic Violence Cycle

October 26, 2018 | Eric Anderson, LMFT, CSAT

As with many repeating patterns, domestic violence has a cyclical nature that follows 3 stages. Knowing these stages is helpful to identify these abusive patterns in a relationship. There are 3 stages that we will look at: tension building, explosion, and the honeymoon.   The Tension Building Stage In this phase of the domestic violence …read more


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An Interview with Domestic Violence Expert Brianne Baker, LMFT

October 24, 2018 | Julia Alperovich, LMFT, CCPS-C, CSAT

In light of October being National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I interviewed a therapist who specializes in working with victims of domestic violence as well as court mandated perpetrators of domestic violence. Her name is Brianne Baker and she is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Santa Clara County, California. She has been …read more


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