Is there really any other kind of pornography these days? Of course print and video-based pornography still exists, but we really have to look no further than our smart phones to access it any time and anywhere. Many questions remain: What impact does online porn have on our brains? On our relationships? On our …read more
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by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S I recently spoke with Lili Bee from PoSARC after the completion of the first Certified Clinical Partner Specialist traing by APSATS. For those of you who don’t know PoSARC, it is a great resource center for partners of sex addicts. Take a look at the interview and …read more
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by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S Here’s a powerful, yet disturbing video about the impact of addictive behaviors on partners: https://youtu.be/JAkT9xfbZPI Though not easy to watch, this video dramatically shows how our addictive / compulsive behaviors are never done in isolation – there is always an impact on our loved ones. Often times, …read more
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by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S A fellow APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists, Inc.) board member, Richard Blankenship, wrote a great blog on the trauma model of treating partners of sex addicts. Partners of sex addicts often experience debilitating trauma symptoms as a result of all the complexities of …read more
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by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S How time flies… I’ve been wanting to write this blog for months but haven’t had a chance until now. Because I get a lot of emails asking about the basics of sex addiction recovery I wanted to write about how to create a solid foundation: from sex addiction …read more
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by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S If you’ve been around sex addiction meetings long enough you’ve no doubt heard people talking about “disclosure.” While there are many different ways to go through the disclosure process, I thought I’d spend a few minutes discussing what disclosure is all about and why you might consider …read more
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by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S So what’s the deal with all of the different 12-step groups for sex addiction? There are several different groups based on the original model of Alcoholics Anonymous for those who are dealing with sex addiction or for those who are impacted by their partner’s sexual behavior. Depending …read more
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by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S Yes, I said it. Masturbation. It’s one of those things most of us rarely talk about publically but most of us have done or continue to do privately. Exploring our sexuality is a normal part of our development, and masturbation is a typical part of this journey. …read more
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by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S I’m often asked about good computer filters, so I thought I’d write a bit here to help you get started with some basic information. For parents, these programs can be very helpful to limit your child’s access to certain sites on the internet. For sex addicts or …read more
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by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S Here is a guided meditation adapted from The Betrayal Bond (Carnes, 1997, pp. 213-215): Close your eyes and make yourself comfortable. Make sure nothing physical distracts you. If you are upset about anything, picture a box around it and set it aside. Tune in now to your …read more
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