So how do I start this recovery thing?

February 22, 2013 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   How time flies…  I’ve been wanting to write this blog for months but haven’t had a chance until now.  Because I get a lot of emails asking about the basics of sex addiction recovery I wanted to write about how to create a solid foundation: from sex addiction …read more


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To disclose or not to disclose: Do I tell my partner all my dirty secrets?

September 1, 2012 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   If you’ve been around sex addiction meetings long enough you’ve no doubt heard people talking about “disclosure.”  While there are many different ways to go through the disclosure process, I thought I’d spend a few minutes discussing what disclosure is all about and why you might consider …read more


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12 step groups for those impacted by sex addiction

June 20, 2012 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   So what’s the deal with all of the different 12-step groups for sex addiction? There are several different groups based on the original model of Alcoholics Anonymous for those who are dealing with sex addiction or for those who are impacted by their partner’s sexual behavior.  Depending …read more


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How much masturbation is too much?

April 21, 2012 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   Yes, I said it.  Masturbation.  It’s one of those things most of us rarely talk about publically but most of us have done or continue to do privately.  Exploring our sexuality is a normal part of our development, and masturbation is a typical part of this journey. …read more


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Computer filters / Accountability Software

April 20, 2012 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   I’m often asked about good computer filters, so I thought I’d write a bit here to help you get started with some basic information.  For parents, these programs can be very helpful to limit your child’s access to certain sites on the internet.  For sex addicts or …read more


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A Guided Imagery for the Journey

April 13, 2012 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   Here is a guided meditation adapted from The Betrayal Bond (Carnes, 1997, pp. 213-215): Close your eyes and make yourself comfortable.  Make sure nothing physical distracts you.  If you are upset about anything, picture a box around it and set it aside.  Tune in now to your …read more


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PATHOS Screening for Sex Addiction

March 31, 2012 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LCPP, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   Here’s another article I wrote for therapists in a local journal:   Many of us who work with alcoholics or addicts are familiar with the CAGE screening for alcoholism: C: Have you ever felt you should CUT DOWN on your drinking? A: Have people ANNOYED you by …read more


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Female Partners of Sex Addicts: It’s Not Her Fault!

March 10, 2012 | Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S

Here is an article I recently wrote for therapists in a local journal: Sex is everywhere in our culture. From billboards, to iPhones, to gossip with friends, we as a society are becoming sexualized at increasingly younger ages. Most of us are able to navigate these sexualized waters with few problems. However, there is a …read more


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