Setting healthy boundaries is an important part of every relationship, and arguably, even more important for partners of sex addicts. Sex addicts are known to violate their partners’ boundaries, intentionally or not, by going against what their partner values. After boundaries are repeatedly violated, partners often struggle to determine healthy boundaries.
As a partner of a sex addict, there is no one-size-fits all for the boundaries you should have in your relationship. Boundaries are formed around what you need to feel emotionally safe in your relationship. What you need to feel emotionally safe depends on your values. Identifying your values is a simple way to start formulating healthy boundaries.
What do you value? It may be helpful to think about the values you had before you even knew your partner or knew of your partner’s sex addiction. Which of your values are being compromised in your current relationship with an addict?
If you can identify your values, creating and communicating your boundaries with your partner will be easier. In my next blogs, I will go into more detail about how to create your boundaries, and consequences if your boundaries are not respected.