How to fall back in love when you’re no longer “in love” by Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, CCPS, CSAT-S   Many couples find our practice after a devastating discovery of their partner’s sexual behaviors. You may have found us because you have betrayal trauma as a result of your partner’s sexual behaviors, or you may …read more

by Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C   Valentine’s Day is here and it may be a painful reminder of the relationship you once had, thought you had, or wish you had. On a holiday that celebrates love and romance, many partner’s of sex addicts are overwhelmed with unpleasant emotions. On Valentine’s Day or any other day, …read more

by Dairek Morgan, LMFT, CSAT   The moment has finally come where your wife/girlfriend/partner followed up enough on her suspicions, pulled on that loose thread long enough, and now your whole life is unraveling.  Those fears you have been keeping at bay, the denial that your behaviors won’t really have an impact, have come flooding …read more

Why Partner’s of Addicts need support too… by Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, CCPS, CSAT-S, Founder & Clinical Director   If you have recently discovered your partner’s secret sexual activities you may have thought or said something very similar to this, “He’s the one with the addiction, so why do I need therapy?”  You may (very …read more

Addiction is a progressive illness.  The more time someone is active in his or her addiction the more their behavior escalates both in terms of the intensive and risk as well as the time involved.  Many clients have been involved in their addiction for many decades.  When this happens the patterns in someone’s life become …read more

Getting through a Season that’s Lost its Cheer by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   Remember when the holidays were a time filled with family, wonderful fragrances, and holiday cheer? In the wake of the discovery of sex addiction, we often hear how triggering special events such as holidays can be. The pictures and …read more

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   I’m working with a couple of colleagues on a new resource for partners and addicts on therapeutic disclosure.  We’re excited about what we think can be a valuable resource in preparing for disclosures. We’d like to make it as helpful a guide as possible, so we NEED …read more

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   The book I co-authored with Wendy Conquest is officially live.  You can find it here on Amazon!  Thanks to everyone who supported us as we were working on this project. We hope it will help addicts, partners, and couples gain better understanding as they work on healing …read more

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   I’m often asked, “How do I get my [sexually addicted partner] to get it?!” This hugely important question by partners brings us to the “E” word: Empathy . . .  Empathy is such an important issue to talk about, yet such a painful one.  A partner’s world …read more

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S There’s so much to say about this project, but I’ve been fortunate to be working with Wendy Conquest on a sequal to her first book, “Letters to a Sex Addict” – https://www.wendyconquest.com/MyBook.en.html. We’re excited to announce that we’re getting closer to finishing our book, “Letters from a Sex …read more