3 Tips for Coming Back from the Brink

How to fall back in love when you’re no longer “in love” by Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, CCPS, CSAT-S   Many couples find our practice after a devastating discovery of their partner’s sexual behaviors. You may have found us because you have betrayal trauma as a result of your partner’s sexual behaviors, or you may …read more


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Grounding for Partners of Sex Addicts

February 14, 2018 | Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C

by Katie Sanford, LPCC, CCPS-C   Valentine’s Day is here and it may be a painful reminder of the relationship you once had, thought you had, or wish you had. On a holiday that celebrates love and romance, many partner’s of sex addicts are overwhelmed with unpleasant emotions. On Valentine’s Day or any other day, …read more


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HE’S the One with the Addiction – Why do I Need Therapy?

Why Partner’s of Addicts need support too… by Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, CCPS, CSAT-S, Founder & Clinical Director   If you have recently discovered your partner’s secret sexual activities you may have thought or said something very similar to this, “He’s the one with the addiction, so why do I need therapy?”  You may (very …read more


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Surviving the Holidays

Getting through a Season that’s Lost its Cheer by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   Remember when the holidays were a time filled with family, wonderful fragrances, and holiday cheer? In the wake of the discovery of sex addiction, we often hear how triggering special events such as holidays can be. The pictures and …read more


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WE NEED YOUR HELP!

July 11, 2017 | Banyan Therapy Group

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   I’m working with a couple of colleagues on a new resource for partners and addicts on therapeutic disclosure.  We’re excited about what we think can be a valuable resource in preparing for disclosures. We’d like to make it as helpful a guide as possible, so we NEED …read more


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Letters from a Sex Addict is Here!

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   The book I co-authored with Wendy Conquest is officially live.  You can find it here on Amazon!  Thanks to everyone who supported us as we were working on this project. We hope it will help addicts, partners, and couples gain better understanding as they work on healing …read more


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Learning the Language of Empathy

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   I’m often asked, “How do I get my [sexually addicted partner] to get it?!” This hugely important question by partners brings us to the “E” word: Empathy . . .  Empathy is such an important issue to talk about, yet such a painful one.  A partner’s world …read more


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New Book Coming out – Early 2017!

September 30, 2016 | Banyan Therapy Group

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S There’s so much to say about this project, but I’ve been fortunate to be working with Wendy Conquest on a sequal to her first book, “Letters to a Sex Addict” – https://www.wendyconquest.com/MyBook.en.html. We’re excited to announce that we’re getting closer to finishing our book, “Letters from a Sex …read more


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STAYING after Infidelity – The New Scarlet Letter

Partners have been sharing this theme with me for some time, so in the aftermath of the Ashley Madison hack I knew I needed to write about the experience of a betrayed partner who chooses to stay in a relationship after the discovery/disclosure of infidelity.   I was asked to write a guest article for …read more


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Gaslighting

by Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S   Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation.  The term comes from the movie with the same name, and it is a strategy where one individual manipulates of the reality of another.  These patterns can range from subtle to extreme, but the impact often leaves the one who …read more


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